People often experience a range of emotions from disbelief, anxiety, guilt to deep sadness and pain. Sometimes people can feel more irritable, angry or confused whilst others can feel a sense of relief that the person has died particularly when there has been a period of long illness of pain. Grief can be a very individual process.
Our Wellbeing and Family Support team provides a range of services (see below) for individuals, families and children of Hospice patients, in West Herts and South Bucks, who are affected by a loved one’s life-limiting illness both pre and post bereavement.
Our Wellbeing and Family Support team will understand how you are feeling and will offer support which may include the following:
A member of our Bereavement Support Line team will call you to see how you are and to offer you a space to talk things through. Our Support line operates on Mondays between 4pm and 8:30pm. Some people feel one or two calls are enough: others welcome regular calls for longer.
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Some people might feel they would like a one off session to talk through something in particular; others may prefer to attend sessions on a more regular basis over a period of time with reviews every six sessions. All our counsellors are members of the British Association of Counselling and Psychotherapy and abide by its ethical framework.
Our specially trained volunteers can visit to support you in your own home. They will provide a listening ear and give you the opportunity to talk through how you are feeling.
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We recognise that many things which give us pleasure and meaning in our life are more difficult to connect with when we are ill. However, this is just the time we need to connect with those pleasures even more.
Illness also brings us face to face with very difficult questions about the meaning of life, the meaning of illness, why bad things happen and how dreadful losses can be faced. Often a stay in the Hospice gives time for contemplation and various questions arise, some religious, some not.
If it is your wish, we can help you to face those difficult questions. All our staff are trained to listen and help you explore these challenges. In addition, our Chaplain, Ray, meets regularly with patients, family members and friends, exploring questions or simply just ‘being there’ in your journey.
Other clergy or religious leaders are welcome to visit the Hospice at any time to see members of their own community and to follow any appropriate religious observances. The Chaplain can facilitate this for you, and there is a list of faith leaders’ contact details available in the nurses’ office.
The Hospice Chapel offers a quiet place to pray, reflect or just be still. We encourage continuing spiritual care of families through local community faith congregations and groups.
Communion is available in patients’ rooms or in the chapel by arrangement with the Chaplain.
The Chaplain is also available to discuss funeral plans and options, and can conduct funerals in some circumstances
CloseChildren’s Supportive Care offer support to children, young people and their parents when there is significant illness in the family and after bereavement, encouraging them to express their thoughts and feelings. We are here to ‘walk alongside you’ in your journey.
Children and young people can express themselves and reflect about their situation in a safe, facilitated environment where the young person can express themselves through talking, art making, play and storytelling. We hold individual and group sessions which encourage peer support.
Sometimes there are things that children want to know; perhaps they feel afraid to ask and those more closely involved family members may find difficult to answer. We also offer the following activities for children at different times throughout the year:
Family Activity and Pony Days: Informal family groups supporting children at the Hospice include our Pony Days in the Hospice grounds. These run every 4-6 weeks between March and September and are handled by our Children’s Supportive Care Team, with ponies supplied and handled one of our nurses. This session offers therapeutic animal facilitation alongside a themed art activity for children aged between 2- 12 years old where there is serious illness in the family or who are bereaved.
Teen Drop In: Teen Drop In is a fortnightly group running on Tuesday evenings for teenagers between the ages of 12 and 18 where there is serious illness in the family or who are bereaved. An informal activities group led by two experienced child support workers, this offers an opportunity for teenagers that have shared similar experiences and or feelings to support each other in a safe environment.
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